The Real Deal Weight Loss Process

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  Did you know that a good 95% of the people that join Weight Loss programs quit

within the first 60 days and don't complete the program?

And, that the vast majority of people that do complete these initial programs

eventually gain back most or all of their original weight and more?

When advertisers promote a new weight loss program they make it look like losing weight is easy, giving the impression over and over again that you can lose 10 lbs./week until you reach your desired weight.

All you have to do is certain exercises for some minimal amount of time

and eat the right foods in the right proportion. 

If people were able or, at least, prone to do these behaviors, don't you think they would be doing so by now?

So what's preventing the vast majority of people to not follow through on losing weight?

Could it have anything to do with why they are overeating to begin with?

Could it be possible that people are overeating to deal with their daily stress and giving up is not so easy?

Doesn't it feel much better to eat some wonderful gluten or sugar-coated food (temporarily anyway) than to deal more directly with one's daily worry, anxiety, fear, anger, depression, physical pain, grief, guilt, or shame, etc.? Or for that matter, doesn't it feel better to eat that gluten or sugar rather than exercise or limit ourselves?

Of course it does. And, as long as we continue to unconsciously give into these urges and cravings, the more our weight problems will continue, not matter how much exercise we do or how much we try to limit our food intake.

The more we directly address those mental and emotional issues that are causing us to overeat, the quicker our weight problems will get resolved.

Below is a list of those elements that are involved with effective weight loss. The Physical component is what pretty much all Weight Loss programs include and I'm going to defer to the "experts" in these areas to show you what to do and how to do it in the areas of Food and Exercise. To find what program(s) suit you, you just have to go to the internet and look under Weight Loss programs and thousands of programs will come up.


Choose what you think is good for you and something you can follow through on. It doesn't have to be, and shouldn't be, extreme in any sense. Any healthy Weight Loss comes over time so take your time. Learn to have patience, compassion and forgiveness of yourself for not doing it all at once!



- What kinds of food are best for weight loss?

- What kinds of foods are not good for weight loss?

- What are the healthiest foods for maintenance of weight after weight loss?


- What kind (s) of exercise are the best for Weight Loss?

- How much of these exercises per day/per week?

- What to do? What not to do?

The most important aspects of any permanent weight loss program that are habitually omitted in the vast majority of Weight Loss programs are the following: 


MENTAL  - Thoughts/Beliefs/Perceptions                      

Our Thoughts/Beliefs = our feelings = our behaviors


Our thoughts/beliefs determine how we feel about ourselves. Then we act out those feelings through our behaviors. Consequently, our positive thoughts and beliefs lead to positive behaviors, and our negative thoughts and beliefs always lead to our negative or dysfunctional behaviors (in this case relating to your weight).  

All positive thoughts come from positive experiences in our lives,
All negative/dysfunctional behaviors are caused by our negative
thoughts and feelings coming from real or perceived negative
experiences in our lives.  


The more we reinforce a pattern of thinking by thinking the same thoughts over and over again, the more our brains become "wired" to that pattern of thinking, thereby causing the same behavioral patterns to follow.  

We usually are not aware of these thoughts/beliefs on a conscious level, and, therefore, are unable to deal with them appropriately.

EMOTIONAL  - Negative emotions can equal "Emotional Eating"                 


     Emotions underlying Weight problems, such as Anger, Anxiety,   
                 Depression, Guilt, Shame, Sadness, etc. are caused   
                                  by your negative thoughts/beliefs.

Are your weight problems due to emotional eating?  


Emotional eating is eating for reasons other than hunger. Instead of the physical symptom of hunger initiating the eating, an emotion triggers the eating. When your stomach isn't growling, that's emotional eating. This is when eating becomes the only or main strategy a person uses to manage emotions.   

If you eat when you are not hungry, chances are your body does not need the calories, and the extra calories get stored as fat, and too much fat storage causes one to be overweight.   

One way to tell is that emotional eating can leave behind feelings of guilt; eating when you are physically hungry does not.


Comfort foods are those foods a person eats to obtain or maintain a feeling, to maintain good moods. Emotional eating is something that most people do 

Stressed is desserts spelled backwards
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The Pie Chart below represents what I think are the main factors in Weight Loss. I'm sure that nutritionists and physical trainers will disagree but if the vast majority of overweight people didn't have the stress and the emotional eating going on, there wouldn't be such a problem getting overweight people to eat right and exercise.  

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What is motivating you to lose weight? 

Processes needed to ease the process:


- Can you find it in yourself to forgive yourself for not being able to lose the weight all at once? To be aware that healthy weight loss is a "process" that happens over time and not all at once   

- Can you find it in yourself to forgive those things that you are emotionally eating for?

- Gratitude 


- If you think about it, there are many things in life that are good and that we can be grateful for. Try to focus on these good things and notice the feelings of gratitude that come up as you do. These feelings of gratitude are among the higher vibration feelings that can not only make us feel good at the time, but they can help set the course for our future of more positive thoughts and feelings.


First, you need to relax your mind!  


So, how can you let go of these deeply entrenched habit patterns? 

The therapeutic methods I use help you "rewire" and "reprogram" those old, dysfunctional thoughts and behavioral patterns. 

Each and every one of the therapeutic methods I use helps you to seek out and resolve these emotional issues even though they may be hidden in your unconscious.

The following is a list of some of the very effective methods I use to help you let go of your excess weight (Over time I will teach you how to apply these methods to yourself so you don't have to spend tons of money on therapy):   

Brainspotting is, by far, the quickest, easiest, most thorough, and most effective therapeutic method to RELEASE FOREVER the negative thoughts, beliefs and feelings that are causing the dysfunction in your life. With Brainspotting you can work on your deepest core issues with minimal discomfort, thanks to the incredibly simple techniques this system employs to quickly and easily activate your parasympathetic nervous system (that part of us that makes us relax even in the midst of intense stress).  

E.M.D.R.  (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is extremely effective in removing the negative beliefs and feelings that cause your negative/dysfunctional behaviors.  

E.F.T.  (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a safe, subtle, yet powerful self-applied acupressure technique to help let go of the negative and fill up with the positive.  


W.H.E.E.  (Wholistic Hybrid of E.M.D.R. & E.F.T.) is a combination of E.M.D.R. and E.F.T., this is the quickest and easiest self-healing method of therapy I know of. 

Hypnosis is very effective in changing unwanted behaviors that are stuck in the unconscious, such as stress, anxiety, fears, phobias, anger, weight issues, smoking, other addictions, and even depression, etc.  

A more thorough description can be found of all of these methods by going to the home page of this website and clicking on the various therapy button of the specific therapy you would like to know more about. Thank you for your interest!!!






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