Change the Way You Look at Things and Those Things Will Change.
So how do you do that? How do you change the way you look at things?
As we have discovered everybody creates their own reality depending on what their thoughts and beliefs are. As we said Negative Thoughts and Beliefs originated from negative life experiences we had in our lives. They are not you but what you were given and what resulted from the trauma that you endured.
So to get to the positive thoughts and beliefs we have to Eliminate the Negative and Accentuate the Positive. We can do this by utilizing the therapeutic methods (or “Accelerated Healing Solutions”) I use which are able to go to the deeper parts of the brain and release the negative thoughts and beliefs that were caused by our negative life experiences, leaving us with a screwed view of life.
Those rather amazing and very effective therapeutic methods are Bilateral Stimulation from E.M.D.R. (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), Brainspotting, which is an incredibly effective method that evolved from E.M.D.R., E.F.T. (an acupressure method called Emotional Freedom Techniques), W.H.E.E. Therapy (a very simple but very effective method named Wholistic Hybrid of E.M.D.R. and E.F.T.), as well as other methods such as The Wounded Child Exercise where the client learns how to take care of his “Inner Child”. All are incredibly powerful methods in their own right and all work on releasing one’s negative thoughts/beliefs, feelings and behaviors.
THE THERAPEUTIC METHODS I USE
TO HELP YOU RELEASE YOUR PROBLEMS
THE TRADITIONAL METHODS
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (C.B.T.)
Imago Couples/Marital/Family Therapy
THE ACCELERATED HEALING METHODS
Brainspotting
E.M.D.R.
E.F.T.
W.H.E.E.
Hypnosis
Ask and Receive
THE ENERGY THERAPIES
Reiki Energy
Vortex Healing Energy
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy – C.B.T.
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is an empirically supported treatment that focuses on patterns of thinking that are maladaptive and the beliefs that underlie such thinking. For example, a person who is depressed may have the belief, “I’m worthless,” and a person with a phobia may have the belief, “I am in danger.” While the person in distress likely holds such beliefs with great conviction, with a therapist’s help, the individual is encouraged to view such beliefs as hypotheses rather than facts and to test out such beliefs by running experiments. Furthermore, those in distress are encouraged to monitor and log thoughts that pop into their minds (called “automatic thoughts”) in order to enable them to determine what patterns of biases in thinking may exist and to develop more adaptive alternatives to their thoughts. People who seek CBT can expect their therapist to be active, problem-focused, and goal-directed.
Studies of CBT have demonstrated its usefulness for a wide variety of problems, including mood disorders, anxiety disorders, personality disorders, eating disorders, substance abuse disorders, and psychotic disorders. While a full description of the treatment and presenting problems for which it is useful is beyond the scope of this brief overview, a brief summary of several treatments will be presented.
CBT has been shown to be as useful as antidepressant medication for individuals with depression and is superior in preventing relapse. Patients receiving CBT for depression are encouraged to schedule activities in order to increase the amount of pleasure they experience. In addition, depressed patients learn how to restructure negative thought patterns in order to interpret their environment in a less biased way. CBT for Bipolar Disorder is used as an adjunct to medication treatment and focuses on psychoeducation about the disorder and understanding cues and triggers for relapse. Studies indicate that patients who receive CBT in addition to treatment with medication have better outcomes than patients who do not receive CBT as an adjunctive treatment.
CBT is also a useful treatment for anxiety disorders. Patients who experience persistent panic attacks are encouraged to test out beliefs they have related to such attacks, such as specific fears related to bodily sensations, and to develop realistic responses to such beliefs. This treatment is very effective for those who experience such problems. Patients who experience obsessions and compulsions are guided to expose themselves to what they fear and beliefs surrounding their fears are identified and modified. The same is true for people with phobias, including phobias of animals or phobias of evaluation by others (termed Social Phobia). Those in treatment are exposed to what they fear and beliefs that have served to maintain such fears are targeted for modification.
(The above description of C.B.T. was taken directly from www.nami.org
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Imago Couples/Family Therapy
With a current divorce rate of 57.7%,
what are our chances of being part of a
happy and fulfilling relationship?
Actually, our chances are a lot better than the statistics show. The trick is to understand why 57.7% of relationships break up before these couples learn how to remedy their situation. Imago Theory gives a clear understanding of the very predictable universal stages that all couples go through and how these stages can be properly dealt with to not only prevent breakup, but to also enrich one’s relationship so it can be happy and fulfilling.
Our society teaches us that if we don’t stay in the “romantic stage”, then we must not be with the right partner. We can then easily change our partners, blaming them for not being “the Right One”. However, Imago teaches us that as adults we always choose the right partner and do so to complete the work of childhood. If we don’t resolve our issues with our current partners, we will just keep repeating the same dysfunctional emotional patterns over and over again no matter with whom we get involved.
What is Imago (Couples/Family) Relationship Therapy?
Imago Relationship Therapy was created by Harville Hendrix and is a fairly new and revolutionary model of treatment that not only is very effective in treating couples but is also equally effective in treating family systems.
The essence of Imago Therapy is based on the assertion that we all choose our partners in life from the unconscious images (Imago) we have of both the positive and negative traits from each of our parents (or primary caretakers). We make these unconscious choices so we can have our childhood emotional “wounds” healed by our chosen partners, that is, to get the nurturing and care from our partners in those areas we did not get as a child.
Because of this, we often respond to our partners in adult life as we did to our parents when we were children. And, since these are initially unconscious choices, we go through certain very predictable (and sometimes very frustrating and stressful) stages in our relationships until we can bring these unconscious patterns to the conscious level so we can understand them better.
Imago Relationship Therapy believes that our partners can eventually heal all our childhood wounds, as we can heal theirs. We can develop much more healthy emotional relationships with our partners in the form of what are called “conscious relationships.” But to do so we have to successfully negotiate and survive the “power struggle stage”, practice to be “conscious” in our daily living during the “transformation stage”, so we can eventually reach the “mature love stage”. Imago Therapy helps us to do just that.
This process can be very brief compared to other forms of couples therapy because the therapist provides the couple with a series of basic skills for healthy communication. These skills are then practiced and developed at home. Therapy is ultimately made obsolete, as each partner becomes a skilled advocate and “container” for the other’s growth process.
You will learn the skills to:
– Develop more effective communication,
– Break destructive cycles of relating,
– Develop the ability to view each other as a resource rather than
an obstacle,
– Restore the empathetic bond between you and your partner,
– Resolve long-standing conflicts and heal old hurts,
– Develop greater compassion for your partner,
– Manage frustration and upset with an outcome of healing and growth,
– Help each other to move from reactivity to “containment”, and
– Rediscover the joy, hope, and passion of when you first met.
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THE ACCELERATED HEALING THERAPIES
BRAINSPOTTING
What is Brainspotting?
Brainspotting is, by far, the quickest, easiest, most thorough, and most effective therapeutic method to RELEASE FOREVER the negative thoughts, beliefs and feelings that are causing the dysfunctional behaviors in your life. With Brainspotting you can work on your deepest core issues with minimal discomfort, thanks to the incredibly simple techniques this system employs to quickly and easily activate your parasympathetic nervous system (that part of us that makes us relax, even in the midst of intense stress). _________________________________________________
Any life event which cause significant physical/emotional injury and distress, in which the person powerfully experiences being overwhelmed, helpless, or trapped, can become a traumatic experience.
There is growing recognition within the healing professions that experiences of physical and/or emotional injury, acute and chronic pain, serious physical illness, dealing with difficult medical interventions, societal turmoil, environmental disaster, as well as many other problematic life events, will contribute to the development of a substantial reservoir of life trauma. That trauma is held in the body.
In most cases, the traumatized individual does not usually have the opportunity or the support to adequately process and integrate these traumatic life events. The traumatic experience then becomes a part of that individual’s trauma reservoir. The body and the psyche cannot remain unaffected by the physical, energetic and emotional costs extracted by this accumulated trauma load. The medical and psychological literature now acknowledges that approximately 75% of requests for medical care are linked to the actions or consequences of this accumulation of stress and/or trauma upon the systems of the human body.
Every health care professional encounters treatment situations in which physical symptoms cannot be separated from their emotional or psychological correlates. Traumatic life experiences, whether physical or emotional, are often significant contributing factors in the development and/or maintenance of most of the symptoms and problems encountered in health care.
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Brainspotting gives us a tool to neurobiologically locate, focus, process, and release such experiences and symptoms that are typically out of reach of the conscious mind and its cognitive and language capacity (thus, this kind of deep processing cannot be accomplished by traditional talk therapy).
Brainspotting works with the deep brain and the body through its direct access to the autonomic and limbic systems within the body’s central nervous system. Brainspotting is accordingly a physiological tool/treatment which has profound psychological, emotional, and physical consequences.
A “Brainspot” is the eye position which is related to the energetic/emotional activation of a traumatic/emotionally charged issue within the brain, most likely in the amygdala, the hippocampus, or the orbitofrontal cortex of the limbic system. Located by eye position, paired with externally observed and internally experienced reflexive responses, a Brainspot is actually a physiological subsystem holding emotional experience in memory form.
Brainspotting appears to stimulate, focus, and activate the body’s inherent capacity to heal itself from trauma. The maintenance of that eye position/Brainspot within the attentional focus on the body’s “felt sense” of that issue or trauma stimulates a deep integrating and healing process within the brain. This processing, which appears to take place at a reflexive or cellular level within the nervous system, brings about a de-conditioning of previously conditioned, maladaptive emotional and physiological responses.
Brainspotting can be directed at distress and Brainspotting is also very useful to access and develop internal resource states and experiences. These resources allow the therapist and patient, where necessary, to “pendulate” between resource or positive states and trauma states during Brainspotting to enable more gradual, graded processing and desensitization of intensely traumatic and emotionally charged issues and symptoms.
Brainspotting processes down to the reflexive core. Often when it appears one has reached a zero distress level, a new strata or floor is broken through, probing deeper into the brain. The reflexive core is in the deep unconscious brain. Brainspotting dismantles the trauma, symptom, somatic distress and dysfunctional beliefs at the reflexive core.
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Brainspotting can be an effective and efficient treatment tool for:
- Physical and emotional trauma
- Recovery from injury and accident trauma
- Trauma resulting from medical interventions and treatment
- Stress and trauma-related medical illness
- Performance issues, including sexual dysfunction
- Fibromyalgia and other chronic pain conditions
- Addictions (especially cravings)
- ADD and ADHD
- Perceptual problems
- Stuttering
- Environmental Illness and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
- Phobias
- Asthma
- Preparation and recovery from surgery
- Trauma resulting from war and natural disasters
- Anger and rage problems
- Anxiety and panic
- Management of major medical illness
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Dr. David Grand discovered Brainspotting and is committed to the worldwide use of trauma healing as a tool to ease human suffering. Grand is the former chairman of the EMDR-Humanitarian Assistance Program. He has coordinated pro bono trainings of trauma therapists in Northern Ireland and inner city Brooklyn, N.Y. Dr. Grand has been featured on NBC Nightly News, Dateline, CNN, the New York Times, the Washington Post, Newsday and O Magazine.
See Dr. David Grand’s YouTube video – “What is Brainspotting?”: or go toDr. Grand’s websiteat:
https://brainspotting.pro/
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E.M.D.R.
(Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
YOUR THOUGHTS = YOUR FEELINGS = YOUR BEHAVIORS
(refer to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy section)
Therefore,
YOUR THOUGHTS = YOUR REALITY!
All positive feelings and behaviors come from positive thoughts that were created from some kind of positive experience in our lives
and
All negative feelings and behaviors come from negative thoughts come from the negative experiences in our lives.
AND, ALL OF YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, FEELINGS and BEHAVIORS COME FROM THE NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES IN YOUR LIFE.
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E.M.D.R. TAKES AWAY
THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS/BELIEFS AND NEGATIVE FEELINGS
BY RELEASING THE ORIGINAL DISTRESS OR TRAUMA
THAT CAUSED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE!
AND, BECAUSE THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS HAVE
BEEN TAKEN AWAY, THE NEGATIVE/DYSFUNCTIONAL
BEHAVIORS WILL ALSO GO AWAY!!!
Our thoughts, feelings, and consequent behaviors originate from our beliefs about ourselves and our place in the world. Our negative beliefs are caused by the various traumas that we experience throughout our lives, (be it the type of trauma referred to as “T”, the bigger traumas, or “t”, the lesser traumas). These negative beliefs feed our negative thoughts and feelings and result in our negative/dysfunctional behaviors. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) can “clear” these original traumas and neutralizes the negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors associated with the original trauma so they have no further negative impact on your life.
What is meant by “trauma”?
Webster’s Dictionary defines trauma as “a disordered psychic or behavioral state resulting from mental or emotional stress or physical injury”. When we think of trauma or of someone being traumatized, we usually think of the bigger forms of trauma that result from a major accident, disaster, or tragedy. This is the type of trauma that is referred to as “T”, or bigger, traumas. These forms of trauma are perceived as life threatening or able to effect one’s life dramatically. Some examples of events causing this type of trauma would be natural disasters, accidents, rape, witnessing violence, physical injury, physical, sexual and/or even emotional abuse, etc. These traumas can lead to debilitating symptoms such as nightmares, anxiety, fears, phobias, flashbacks, as well as difficulties at home and work, with extreme cases leading to clinically defined disorders such as PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), or other clinically defined anxiety or depressive disorders. Some examples of negative self-beliefs that develop from these traumas are, “I’m not safe in the world”, “I’m in danger”, “I’m going to die”, etc.
However, the majority of trauma we experience in our lives does not come from these larger, more dramatic events. Most of the trauma we all experience in our lives comes from the “t”, or smaller, more personalized traumatic events which are more insidious. These events, usually experienced in our childhood, have negatively altered our sense of self in some way, and influence how we feel about ourselves and how we interact in the world around us. These experiences caused us emotional pain, humiliation, or shame, giving us a lesser sense of self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-efficacy. Being chastised or judged unfairly by our caretakers, (no matter how well intentioned they may have been), being humiliated in the classroom, difficulties with peers, losses due to death or others moving away, chaotic family dynamics, divorce, abandonment issues, etc., can contribute to “t” traumas. Some examples of self-beliefs that develop from these “t” traumas are “I’m not deserving”, “I’m not lovable”, “I’m stupid”, “I’m not good enough”, etc.
What is E.M.D.R.?
The various traumas we experience throughout our lifetime become trapped in one side of the brain while language is processed in the opposite side. Because the two sides of the brain do not effectively communicate with each other, talk therapies cannot effectively release the trauma. The bilateral stimulation used in E.M.D.R. “unlocks” the trauma and allows the mind and body to process the traumatic experience by connecting the two hemispheres of the brain and releasing the trauma through a free association process. E.M.D.R. stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
It is believed that the process by which this occurs is similar to REM (Rapid Eye Movement), the deepest stage of our nightly sleep, which is believed to be effective in processing negative thoughts and emotions. However, with those larger traumas or traumas that persist over time, the R.E.M. system gets overloaded and is not able to process all of the traumatic material. This “overflow” gets stored in the subconscious and has a continued, negative effect on our beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
From Negative to Positive
As the traumatic information is processed by bilateral stimulation, the negative images, affect, and beliefs of your traumatic experiences disappear, while positive images, affect and beliefs become more vivid (letting go of the negative and filling up with the positive).As this information becomes fully processed, the client reaches a positive resolution and those “traumas” simply become memories, without the negative emotional “charge”.
I CAN HELP YOU REPROGRAM YOUR LIFE!!!!
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If you are interested in finding out more about E.M.D.R., please look at the YouTube presentations listed below:
E.M.D.R. – 20/20 Report with Francine Shapiro (discoverer of E.M.D.R.)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GTLLfdcJE0Q
E.M.D.R. (with William Zangwill)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gZ5MLn1Cc94
E.M.D.R. – a documentary film
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDivEv1U3Pg
E.M.D.R. – Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
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E.F.T. – Emotional Freedom Techniques
A self-applied type of “acupuncture without the needles”
Do you or someone you know suffer from stress, anxieties, fears, phobias, negative thoughts, feelings, insomnia, cravings related to food, drugs, alcohol, smoking, chocolate, etc.?
If so, Emotional Freedom Techniques (E.F.T.) can help you overcome these problems with a very simple, easy to learn, self-application process that will allow you to live a happier, more abundant, fulfilling life!!!
What is Emotional Freedom Techniques (E.F.T.)?
Emotional Freedom Techniques (E.F.T.) is a safe, non-invasive, subtle, yet powerful and miraculous new approach to help people live their lives in greater balance. IMT is a tool that is used in psychology and related fields for enhancing performance, reducing stress, and relieving `dis‑ease’. It is especially useful for reducing fear, worry, anxiety, anger, depression, and everyday stress. It can enable people to let go of longstanding grief or other trauma and move on with their lives. E.F.T. is an amazingly effective tool to center ourselves on a regular basis so that we can gain clearer perspective on our lives, thus allowing us to put more focused energy into completing our life’s goals and fulfilling our dreams.
With remarkable consistency, E.F.T. relieves symptoms by an unusual routine of tapping with the finger-tips on a series of points on the body that correspond to acupunture points in the energy meridians. Where there is an imbalance, there is a corresponding blockage in the flow of energy through the meridian system. The tapping serves to release the blockages that are created when a person thinks about or become involved in an emotionally disturbing situation. When the blockage is released, the emotions come into balance. Once balanced, the person no longer is upset about the situation. The memory remains but the emotional “extra charge” is gone for good.
A Simple Process that I will teach you how to apply to yourself
Perhaps, most importantly, E.F.T. is a self‑help tool. Anyone can easily learn to use this approach themselves in their daily lives as a quick and effective way to calm down, let go of some unwanted thought or feeling, or just “get centered”.
Instead of using needles or pressure, tapping with one or more fingers is used to stimulate the meridian points. The energy that is ‘generated’ when we tap is quite literally converted to electromagnetic impulses which travel along the meridians and have a balancing effect. I will teach you this tapping process in the office and then you will be able to apply it to yourself any time you feel the need or want to work on those areas that are preventing you from fulfilling your potential.
E.F.T. can helpresolve the following problems:
– Stress and Anxiety
– Depression
– Anger and Frustration
– All kinds of Fears and Phobias
– Self-doubt,
– Negative self-beliefs, thoughts, and feelings,
– Insomnia
– Guilt issues
– Grief issues
– General confusion in your life, or,
– any other emotion you can think of
E.F.T. will also help you release cravings for:
– Drugs/Alcohol & other addictions
– Food
– Cigarettes
– Chocolate/Caffeine
– other addictive/compulsive behaviors
E.F.T. is also an effective tool for improving your functioning in any area of your life and can help you be more effective in everything that you do in life, including:
– Improve your business and personal relationships, your career performance
– Release your limitations in relation to money or any other issue that is holding you back from being happy or fulfilling your potential
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If you are interested in more information about E.F.T., please look at the following YouTube videos:
The Most Inspirational E.F.T. Video With Founder Gary Craig
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZKDhRohzSdU
Gary Craig – Demonstration of Cigarette Craving Release with EFT
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JomleN-FCbQ
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W.H.E.E.
(Wholistic Hybrid of E.M.D.R. and E.F.T.)
or
WHEE: Whole Health – Easily and Effectively®
W.H.E.E.takes the bilateral tapping from E.M.D.R. (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and puts it together with the positive affirmation style of E.F.T. (Emotional Freedom Techniques) to very quickly and efficiently remove the negative emotions blocking one’s happiness in life.
W.H.E.E.is very simple and easy to learn.
W.H.E.E.is the fastest, easiest, and most effective of the many meridian based therapies,
W.H.E.E.is a method of self-healing that helps release physical pain and emotional suffering.
W.H.E.E.is very rapidly effective, enabling you to clear away buried emotional pains that you carry around with you from hurtful experiences.
W.H.E.E. relieves pains of tension headaches, migraines, backaches, arthritis, irritable bowel syndrome, post-surgical and post-injury pains, fibromyalgia, cancer and more.
W.H.E.E. transforms your attitude towards stress – from one of annoyance to one of gratitude that you are being offered further opportunities to clear more out of your internal bucket of “stuffed” junk and to reprogram your hard drive (which you let a little child program for you).
W.H.E.E. can speed recovery from injuries, operations, and illnesses, and enhance relationships, sports and job performance.
W.H.E.E. taps into the research database of EMDR.
YouTube videos that show the process of W.H.E.E.
– for Pain Release
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHuJkzkBArw
– for positive self talk
http://www.youtube.com/user/PositiveSelfTalk
– for Forgiveness
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tOMHrfuKdKs
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