Individual Therapy

Anxiety, Worry, Fear, and Panic Causing Problems

Jean* was confused, anxious, worried, and fearful when she came into therapy. Another day on the edge. Nothing helped her relax anymore. As she became more anxious, it was harder for her to concentrate. She second-guessed herself constantly.

Trying to balance her life with two young kids and being a partner with her spouse in a family business, Jean often found herself feeling overwhelmed and over-reactive.

She had difficulty communicating with her spouse and did whatever she could to avoid conflicts bending over backward to make everyone else happy. It truly was a vicious cycle.

Jean understood her problems resulted from her high level of anxiety, worry, and fear. We worked on these issues until she began feeling calmer and in control – within a few sessions. This progress continued to where she experienced more happiness with her husband and kids as well as feeling more organized at work.

Physically and Emotionally Abused by Boyfriend

Brenda* came into therapy convinced that her boyfriend was a good person who got angry and “takes it out on me but doesn’t mean to.”

She felt confused and fearful most of the time. Often, she thought, “Is this my fault somehow?” Feelings of self-hate and low self-esteem were exacerbated.

After a few sessions in therapy, Brenda could see that the behavior pattern exhibited by her boyfriend was the same pattern that her mother exhibited when she was young.

Brenda could eventually see that she was seeking the “love” she was used to when she was a kid – and that definition of “love” does not stand any longer.

Brenda broke up with this boyfriend and is now very happy developing a healthier self-image to avoid attracting that kind of dysfunctional relationship anymore.

Anger and Rage Problems

Frank came into therapy because he said he seemed to be angry most of the time – angry at his bosses for expecting so much from him, angry at his wife for making a list of things that he had to do at home, and angry at the kids for yelling and screaming.

“Sometimes, I feel like I’m going to explode because I get so angry and don’t know how to control it or contain it.”

In therapy, Frank could understand that for him, anger was mostly a way of avoiding the pain and sadness from his childhood that he didn’t want to feel. It was so much easier to feel anger and, actually, much more socially acceptable for a guy. Simply, it felt better to be angry than to be in pain.

Frank also learned that he used anger to distract the negative thoughts and feelings he felt about himself in relation to not fulfilling his own expectations at work or home by being a good provider, husband, and father. He realized he was projecting his feelings of anger at himself onto his bosses, wife, and kids.

Frank worked diligently in therapy and was able to release “layers” of his childhood conditioning that made him feel angry and less than who he was. As he peeled the layers, he found more and more of his True Self, who was that confident, happy, and successful self that we all are underneath our negative conditioning.

*Names changed to protect client confidentiality.

“What you Resist Persists, What You Look at Disappears”

As a matter of fact, “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.’’ Just because you put your head in the sand and avoid looking at the problems and the discomfort they cause you, it doesn’t mean they go away. They accumulate, get worse, give more and more pain, and more and more discomfort. All your avoidance strategies in the world will not make that different.

But, in therapy with me, you will not only look at, but you also will release those negative thoughts and feelings that are causing your emotional pain and dysfunctional relationships.

Your problems will then disappear, allowing you to be more at peace with yourself and, therefore, at more peace with others.

Life Can be Painful, but Suffering is Optional!
You Don’t Have to Suffer! I Can Help!

What is Individual Therapy like with me?

My Therapy Practice differs greatly from most therapy practices. I call my Practice “Accelerated Healing Solutions” because of the accelerated nature of the methods I use to heal mental/emotional “wounds.” Some of the methods I use are E.M.D.R. Trauma Therapy, Brainspotting, W.H.E.E. Therapy (a simple but very effective combination of E.M.D.R. and E.F.T. – Emotional Freedom Technique), etc. Please refer to my Specialty pages and My Approach page to learn more about these methods and why I use them. You can also click here to see exactly what I do have in the way of Licenses, Certifications, Trainings and Experience, etc.

I engage in talk therapy when it is called for, but I prefer to work with therapies and methods that are much more effective in getting to the root of whatever problem the client is dealing with, so they can release their negative thoughts, feelings related to their problem(s) and leave therapy calmer, more confident, happier, and more successful.

What to expect

We will work together to address and directly work on releasing those issues that are causing you pain or discomfort and dysfunction in your life, preventing you from having a happier, more successful, and fulfilling life.

We will always go at your pace as we use effective alternative therapies and methods to help you release the negative thoughts causing your negative behaviors. You will feel calmer, more confident, and happier each time you have a therapy session. The problems that were created by your negative beliefs will eventually disappear!

Once the disturbing memories (along with any “extra-charge” of emotion connected to the memories) are released, so too are the issue(s) that you initially brought to therapy. Length of treatment depends on the level of intensity and duration of the disturbing event/events you experienced that initially caused your disturbing memories and dysfunctional behaviors.

Testimonial

“Without your expertise in therapy… I never would have survived… you are truly an amazing human being and your caring and kindness are unmatched… know that there is a soul out there that you saved from total despair.”
M. R.